Comments on: What Have I Become?

By: Jack somaini

Jack somaini — Thu, 19 May 2011 22:24:51 +0000

You continue to surpise me, just like your grandmother. I was 30 when I realized she was a very smart and talented woman. Kind of slow I know. Your mom and I have had a whole bunch of good times, and some not so hot times, as you well know. But we still love each other and have been together for over 48 years. If we can find love in our realtionship every day, thats a very good thing.

Love you and tere,

Dad

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 19 May 2011 20:26:00 +0000

I hope you bit her on the neck!!!!!

By: Heather Somaini

Heather Somaini — Thu, 19 May 2011 16:53:12 +0000

Thanks everyone for your encouragement!!

By: Tanya Dodd-Hise

Tanya Dodd-Hise — Thu, 19 May 2011 15:17:49 +0000

Glad to know that I’m not the only one who has moments of cynicism, too! While we were at Disney last week, we kept seeing young newlyweds in their special bride and groom mouse ears. Part of me went “awwww look, young love.” But the other part of me went “awwww I wonder how long before they will be divorced.” It was disgustingly sad that I think that way now. I don’t ever think that way about us – it’s just not there, not in my thinking in regards to THIS marriage (like it always was in the past). But sad to me that I look at young couples and wonder how long it will last.

But I’m with you – a dance can sometimes sweep out all of the cynicism and bring back all the mushy, lovey feelings that we need to remind ourselves of! Glad that you got your dance girls!

By: Diana

Diana — Thu, 19 May 2011 09:41:42 +0000

Oh, and a little trick I use when I feel detached and distant… I try to imagine how my life would be if something happened to my better half (touch wood here!!), or if she decided to leave me. Then I am instantly ready to behave and be less cranky and judgmental, at least for a while!

By: Diana

Diana — Thu, 19 May 2011 09:35:58 +0000

I am probably one of the most cynical persons on Earth, but when it comes to myself and my 9-year relationship I can be the most positive and sappy too. I really wonder how kids will change us and I can’t help but think that it will be even more blissful than it is now. But if we argue over the cats, how will we be able to get along when we have a kid or two? I just hope we will always find a way to laugh at ourselves and just be a silly affectionate happy family. I tell myself that as long as the parents are in love and happy about their lives, kids can only add to that happiness. I said I was sappy!

By: Madgew

Madgew — Thu, 19 May 2011 00:53:31 +0000

@Tere. so happy this was the Heather you knew. She is there just sometimes crankier than others. But always there.

By: colleen

colleen — Thu, 19 May 2011 00:50:56 +0000

Heather you write so beautfully ….you said it all so well….marriage is work…and you do grow and change..then you have to work at it again…. cranky in a marriage is every persons’ middle name, you have to make that extra effort to make it better. I just wish mine danced!

By: Tere

Tere — Thu, 19 May 2011 00:16:33 +0000

For the record, Heather asking me to dance at that moment is one of my favorite moments in the history of us. The song was “It’s Your Love” Time McGraw/Faith Hill. It was an unexpected gift at an unexpected time – like the Heather I married.

By: Heather Somaini

Heather Somaini — Wed, 18 May 2011 19:21:26 +0000

Dance, Lesley. Dance.