Interview with Tanya Dodd-Hise
TNF: How has it been blogging for TNF?
I have been blogging with TNF for a little over a year now (I think), and have loved the TNF family that I have gotten out of the deal! I wish that it was my full-time job, and I really hope that someday it moves into that. I enjoy the deadlines and being able to write, on a regular basis, with a purpose. I also enjoy reading the blogs of the other writers on the TNF site, as it gives me insight into many other people’s lives, as well as the opportunity to glean wisdom and advice when needed.
TNF: How is your family like every other family and how is it different?
Our family is like any other family, in that we have our ups and downs, battles over homework and grades, decisions over what to make for dinner and where to go on vacation, and a household to run with bills and repairs. How are we different? Hmmmm. I guess that we might be different NOT because there are two moms, but because we make it a daily point to teach acceptance and tolerance of ALL families.
TNF: Did your family accept you and your lifestyle? If yes, explain and if not explain what you have done to help them to accept your decisions and your lifestyle.
They are getting better and better at it. When I was dating my wife, we were not accepted at all. When we got married, the wedding was not discussed, and it was not accepted. When we announced my wife’s pregnancy, we were met with skepticism, but over the course of the pregnancy they started coming around more than ever. Now that our baby is here and we are proceeding with plans for me to adopt her as a second parent, my family is coming around more and more. It has been an interesting dynamic to watch, but I am thankful that it is FINALLY happening.
TNF: How do you juggle the work at home with your jobs?
Fortunately for me, I work from home most of the time. Sometimes I am out of the house for a photo shoot or a catering event, but most of the time I have the baby with me and am able to take care of things at home (well, the best I can!).
TNF: What lessons do you feel are the most important to teach children in this day and age? Are there any lessons they, or perhaps we as parents should unlearn?
I feel very strongly about teaching love, acceptance, and tolerance for all families. Ours is not that out of the ordinary, or weird, and neither is anyone else’s. My kids have been bullied because their mom is a lesbian, and I would never want them to behave that way in return. There are lessons, as parents, that we were taught from our parents that involved judging the condition of another person’s family if it was different from our own; that should most definitely be unlearned because it has involved a lot of hurt and damage to many of us over the years.
TNF: Any words of wisdom to pass on to our readers?
Be proud of who you are and the family that you have made for yourself. No one should be able to take away your joy with their ignorance – so don’t let them!
TNF: Anything you want our readers to know about you or your family?
We are just like you, so always remember that and treat us like we are!