Top Ten Ways to Make a Non-Birth Parent Feel Needed
By: Susan Howard (Brandy Black’s wife)
- Routinely leave your spouse with a fed baby for two hours alone. Go out and get your nails done.
- Everyday tell your partner one great thing that they are doing right.
- Come up with tasks that are only theirs, such as bathing, bedtime stories, swaddling, etc.
- Give your spouse a night out with friends.
- Book a date night, letting them know that they are your priority and try to not obsessively talk about the kids.
- Create a schedule so everybody knows what is happening in the baby’s routine.
- Be sure to have your spouse feed the baby.
- Sign your spouse up for a parent and me class in music, yoga or hikes.
- If you have an issue with a parenting style first compliment your partner on the things you love that they do and then bring up your concern.
- Quit your bitching, we are tired too.