Top Ten Ways to Make a Non-Birth Parent Feel Needed

March 26, 2012 by  
Filed under Brandy Black, Family, Same Sex Parent

By: Susan Howard (Brandy Black’s wife)



  1. Routinely leave your spouse with a fed baby for two hours alone. Go out and get your nails done.
  2. Everyday tell your partner one great thing that they are doing right.
  3. Come up with tasks that are only theirs, such as bathing, bedtime stories, swaddling, etc.
  4. Give your spouse a night out with friends.
  5. Book a date night, letting them know that they are your priority and try to not obsessively talk about the kids.
  6. Create a schedule so everybody knows what is happening in the baby’s routine.
  7. Be sure to have your spouse feed the baby.
  8. Sign your spouse up  for a parent and me class in music, yoga or hikes.
  9. If you have an issue with a parenting style first compliment your partner on the things you love that they do and then bring up your concern.
  10.  Quit your bitching, we are tired too.


3 Responses to “Top Ten Ways to Make a Non-Birth Parent Feel Needed”
  1. Madgew says:

    Good advice Susan. Everyone needs to relax and feel needed and wanted.

  2. Samantha says:

    This made me smile and it is so true!

  3. Lex says:

    Love this. Will bookmark it for my wife for when our time comes!

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