A Different Kind of Crazy

April 26, 2012 by  
Filed under Family, Lex Jacobson, Same Sex Parent

By: Lex Jacobson

When you mix mental health issues with fertility hormone treatments, sometimes you get a bit of a mess, which equals me. I imagine hormone treatments to get pregnant aren’t nice for anyone who has to do it, but I really feel as though it’s poking at old wounds. Crazy wounds.

I really wanted to make an omelet the other day, so chopped up some onion, garlic, bell peppers, and mushrooms and grated some cheese. I went back into the fridge to get the eggs. We had no eggs. I don’t usually lose my head, but I got so angry I almost punched a hole through the kitchen wall. Devon came out of the bedroom to find out what was going on and once she realized I was mad, she held up her hands so that I could use them as punching targets. When I wouldn’t hit her, she called me a pussy and I cried. Yup – crazy wounds.

My depression was never the tearful or weepy type of depression. In months and months of living in different psych wards, I rarely cried. I was numb more than anything else. It was an internal battle that I kept very private and couldn’t stand the thought of showing weakness through tears. So the effects of fertility drugs are tough to deal with. And I know that this is absolutely nothing compared to what I’m going to have to face when I’m pregnant with all of those different hormones, so this should be a good test, if nothing else.

This whole process – fertility drugs or not – is crazy. My days are filled with peeing in cups, taking my temperature at 4:00 am, obsessing over calendars, cervical mucous, and how the opening of my cervix feels. Then add the negative results month after month. This process is not for the weak (nor for the poor, but that’s another story for another day).

For now, I just need to go through with the insemination this week and remember to stock the fridge before I lose my shit again.

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2 Responses to “A Different Kind of Crazy”
  1. madgew says:

    Lex you are so brave to share all this with us. I am always holding you in the light. Let us know how it works out with the next IUI.

  2. Diana says:

    Looks like we have our IUI’s at the same time every month. I’m on my 4th try and I’m getting restless too, but I just decided to take it really easy – keeping POAS to a minimum and not obsessing over fertility signs, plus this time I won’t say no to a drink with friends. I tell myself that my life goes on and pregnancy is just something that will happen sooner or later. Good luck Lex!

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