By Alex Temblador
There’s a lot of things that goes into the process of starting a family. Sometimes it involves a partner, other times it doesn’t. Whether you plan to have a child naturally, through adoption or surrogacy, or IVF, it usually requires planning of some sort. However, for some people, they may not consider starting a family at the same age or time that others plan and begin their families – and that’s okay.
Too often, women are pressured to have children early due to the “biological clock” argument, however, women aren’t the only ones who question their age and interest in having a child. Men, like women, also ask themselves, “Am I too old to start a family?”
There are first-time parents who happen to be 35 and others who are 45. The important thing to remember is that each person’s journey is different. However, to help ease your mind, here’s some positive aspects of having kids later in life.
- There’s always options to create a family.
Often women worry that they won’t be able to have children once they reach a certain age, and that is true, but having a child naturally is not the only way to start a family. In the 21st century, we have options like surrogacy and adoption that allows for individuals to have children later in life.
- You’re more financially stable.
If you’re worried about starting a family at a later age, remember that you’ll have some advantages that parents who had kids in their 20s will not. More likely, you’ll be financially stable as you’ve completed education or training and established yourself in your career. You will be more financially able to support a kid and prepare for their future.
- There’s advantages for kids with older parents.
Despite the risks for women to bear a child at an older age, there are some significant advantages for children who have “older” parents. Studies have found that children of older mothers are healthier, taller, and are more educated. Another study found that the biological children of older fathers might have a chance at living longer.
- Older parents are more patient.
Patience is a virtue, especially for parents! Raising children is not the easiest job, but for older parents it may be. At an older age, they tend to have their emotions under more control. And science backs this up! Male testosterone drops each year, making fathers less reactive to emotional situations and thereby, more patient with young children.
A study also found that older parents agreed that they were more emotionally prepared for parenting.
One father in the study said, “I know that I’m way more self-aware than I was 20 years ago. I feel like I’m in a better position to communicate better with my child and help them more in life, and I understand how to be a supportive, encouraging parent.”
See, there are some great perks to being an older parent! Though most of your friends may have already had kids by the time you hit the age of 30 or even 40 – don’t worry. You’re not alone and your decision to wait doesn’t negate the opportunity to have a family one day.
If these awesome advantages of being an older parent doesn’t convince you, then maybe you’ll be more receptive to someone who’s been there already. The Next Family writer, Henry Amador- Batten shared his experiences as an older gay day in a wonderful article. Check it out here.
Alex Temblador is a writer for The Next Family and the founder of Fempotential.com, an inspirational blogazine for women.