By Alex Temblador
When it comes to families with LGBT youth, we often find that fathers are the last to know about their children’s sexuality or gender identity. With the prevalence of masculinity in our society, sometimes we assume that dads just aren’t going to accept their LGBT children.
But that’s not always the case, as Joe, a dad of a transgender son explains in a wonderful video interview. Joe discusses how his son Penel expressed his male gender identity from an early age by rejecting dresses, wanting to wear his hair short, to even disliking pants with pink stitching — on the inside of the pants.
Eventually Joe spoke with Penel and said, “Hey, Penel, Mom is telling me that you want me to call you a boy, but I need to hear that from you. And Penel said, ‘Dad, I’d like you to call me a boy.'” And Joe did.
“At that point it wasn’t really a hard decision because, to me, what difference does it make if I want to call you a boy or a girl?” Joe said. “I want you to feel that I’m confident in you and that I love you.”
Though Joe worries about outside influences on his son, he wants to instill confidence in his son to stand up for himself.
He added, “The one thing I want Penel to always know is that I am always here and his family’s always here. And no matter what happens, no matter how hard things get, I’m always here and he’s always great. That’s happiness to me.”
Not only is it wonderful to see a father accept his son so freely for who he is, but videos such as this can be very helpful and encouraging for other fathers who may be experiencing their child coming out for the first time whether it be as transgender or LGB.
Way to show what truly family love is all about Joe! Check out the video below: