Man Down! A Gay Dad Wants To Wave His White Flag

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By Henry Amador Tired, irritated, angry, distant, envious, tired, overwhelmed, tired, judgmental, did I say tired? These are some of the ways I have been feeling lately and that really has me feeling, well… tired, irritated, angry, distant, envious, overwhelmed, judgmental and tired, really tired. I was recently featured in an article on Buzzfeed about […]

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8 Things These Gay Dads Don’t Want To Hear

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By Henry Amador   1. When are you going to tell him he’s adopted and how do you think he’ll take the news? We’re not, we are planning on waiting until he is either eighteen or just senses that he’s different to SURPRISE him with the news. Adoption is not a bad word, we have […]

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Move Over Kids. Mama Has A Christmas List Too.

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By: Amber Leventry Dear Santa, I know it’s been awhile, and I feel like we should catch up or something. Let’s be honest, though. Between kids changing their minds about what they really want for Christmas and at least one of my three kids constantly on the naughty list, neither one of us has time […]

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On The Road (To Gay Daddyhood) Again! Part Three, Hoops, Hurdles and The Matching Game.

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By: Henry Amador I am happy to say that as I write this articles my husband and I have completed the required classes in the MAPP program, Model Approach to Partnerships in Parenting for North Carolina. We received a lovely certificate as our class mates cheered as each of our family names were called. I […]

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On The Road (To Gay Daddyhood) Again! Part Two, Shaking the Gays Away.

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By Henry Amador: So we began our MAPP classes this past August 26th, 2014. MAPP being the State-required class to license as a Foster or Adoptive parent, Model Approach to Partnerships in Parenting. In part one I shared how my husband and I were a part of a very special group when we licensed in […]

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Date Nights Are Good For You And Society

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By: Amber Leventry   My partner and I don’t get out for nearly enough date nights. Not because we don’t want to, but because paying for two babysitters for three kids—a three and a half year old and 14 month old twins—is not in the budget. Nor do we want to abuse the generosity of […]

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Parenting Is Not Always Love At First Sight

Do you fall in love with your baby immediately?

By Amber Leventry My twin boys are 14 months old. I fell in love with one of them yesterday and the other today. Please make no mistake or judgment. I have loved them since they were cells dividing, and I have loved them stronger each day since their birth, but yesterday was the first time […]

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Congratulations, It’s A Boy…. Now What?

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By: Henry Amador My son was born four days after my 48th birthday. Growing, I never really thought I would experience fatherhood, why would I? Gay men of that time didn’t aspire to be husbands and daddies, those titles were not generally handed out to us. Like many gay men of my generation, we grew […]

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Plan, Hope, and Wait: Fertility Advice for a Friend

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By: Amber Leventry A friend recently asked my partner, Amy, and I for fertility advice. I was prepared to spew the abundant amount of information in my head about ovulation, basal body temperatures, and cervical mucus. Information I never thought I would know, but information I now know so well from our own attempts at […]

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Sperm Banks, Sibling Registries, and Donor Siblings: The Insemination of Family

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By Amber Leventry I don’t like surprises. I am not fond of change. And I hate the feeling in my stomach when things are out of my control. All three of these crazy-making items collided when we bought baby-making sperm. My biggest hang-up was the knowledge that someone unknown to us could also buy our […]

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