By Monique After I left the Single Mother By Choice meeting, I had made my decision. I knew this journey was going to take me and my emotions to a place that I had never been before. Having a baby was still just a thought because I was far from actually trying to have a […]
The Road to Single Motherhood
Interview with Holly Vanderhaar
Interview with Holly Vanderhaar by The Next Family TNF: How has it been blogging for TNF? It’s great. I tend to think in “personal essay mode” anyway, and I often find that, in the process of writing my entries, I work through the issue and I find answers to questions I didn’t even realize I was asking. […]
The New Normal
By: Holly Vanderhaar “Why are we here, again?” This is the question I found myself answering —over and over again— when my daughters and I attended the 30th Anniversary Celebration of Single Mothers by Choice. I had of course told them that the celebration was the main reason for our trip to New York —their […]
Time Warp: Development and Perspective
To Your Child, It Matters
By: Julie Gamberg I work within the community with children and their parents and I see again and again how much learned behavior comes directly from parents. Parents who behave in a generous, caring way, who offer to help, who are involved and engaged, generally have kids who exhibit a lot of the same behavior. […]
Moral Ambiguity
By: Julie Gamberg My next-door neighbor has terminal brain cancer. When I hear him coughing, which is, intermittently, twenty-four hours a day, I imagine many a touching independent or foreign film in which two urban apartment neighbors who have never really met come together over something serious and profound and both of their lives are […]
Just Right
Scattered
By: Julie Gamberg I know another single mom who, after feeling very disconnected from her tween son, embarked on a project of spending just fifteen minutes a day where she is totally present with him, and then journaling about it. I was privileged to hear some of her journal entries and it’s clear that […]