The Road to Single Motherhood

doctor

By: Melissa Mensavage When it started I was sitting there rubbing my cold, clammy feet together waiting in the crisp, mauve-pink paper vest and sheet laying across my lap. I was wondering how long this was going to take and how soon I could get back to the office when the doctor walked in. We […]

Share

Interview with Holly Vanderhaar

wholeworldinmyhandsmall

Interview with Holly Vanderhaar by The Next Family TNF: How has it been blogging for TNF? It’s great. I tend to think in “personal essay mode” anyway, and I often find that, in the process of writing my entries, I work through the issue and I find answers to questions I didn’t even realize I was asking. […]

Share

The New Normal

IMG_0025

By: Holly Vanderhaar “Why are we here, again?” This is the question I found myself answering —over and over again— when my daughters and I attended the 30th Anniversary Celebration of Single Mothers by Choice. I had of course told them that the celebration was the main reason for our trip to New York —their […]

Share

To Your Child, It Matters

feet

By: Julie Gamberg I work within the community with children and their parents and I see again and again how much learned behavior comes directly from parents.  Parents who behave in a generous, caring way, who offer to help, who are involved and engaged, generally have kids who exhibit a lot of the same behavior.  […]

Share

Moral Ambiguity

Neighbors

By: Julie Gamberg My next-door neighbor has terminal brain cancer. When I hear him coughing, which is, intermittently, twenty-four hours a day, I imagine many a touching independent or foreign film in which two urban apartment neighbors who have never really met come together over something serious and profound and both of their lives are […]

Share

Scattered

on the phone while with kid

By: Julie Gamberg   I know another single mom who, after feeling very disconnected from her tween son, embarked on a project of spending just fifteen minutes a day where she is totally present with him, and then journaling about it. I was privileged to hear some of her journal entries and it’s clear that […]

Share

ABCDEFG- Academics and Developmental Learning

Kids Mat

By: Julie Gamberg I love reading, and books, and language. I like academia and I’m a bit of a (non-technical) geek. Which means, research shows, that it is very important that I do not push my child in any of those directions, and instead allow her to slowly, developmentally, find her way to her own […]

Share