Gestational Surrogate Becomes The Milk Lady

July 30, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

My surro baby, Alexander, made it out of the NICU July 8th and then headed back to his home July 13th. He is doing so well and is even up to six and a half pounds! One of the issues with international surrogacy is that you can’t ship breast milk (it would melt and go bad during shipping/in customs). However, I was able to pump for Alexander for the first two weeks.

Here was my final gift before they left:
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And here is the last time I got to feed him:
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Now, anyone who has ever breastfed knows how much it sucks (ha!) when you stop. Your boobs get rock hard and hurt so bad! This time I decided instead of quitting cold turkey I’d slowly start pumping less and less and then finally end it. Since my own surro babe has left the country, I asked my surro group if any of them needed my extra milk.

Tomorrow, after eleven more days of pumping, I’ll be sending over 3500mL to a precious baby girl who was born to two marvelous dads several weeks ago. She will be heading back to her home (also overseas) in about a week but not before I get to supplement what her own marvelous surrogate has been giving.

I started to get it all packaged up to ship…
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After this, I have eleven more days with my rented breast pump. I am down to pumping only 2-3 times a day now and by the first week of August should be completely finished. I do have plans for any milk pumped during the final days -a friend of mine is going back to work and is a little worried about her own pumping, so I’m planning on giving the milk to her and her wife to help supplement.

Just call me The Milk Lady.

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Gestational Surrogacy: PHOTOS

July 16, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

I went into the hospital on Friday June 29th and was discharged Monday July 2nd. Alexander is still in the NICU but looks as if he’ll be discharged in the next few days (if you can believe it!).

Here are some other pictures from his 2nd and 3rd day on earth….

Alexander's sign

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Gestational Surrogate: Sweet Baby Alexander

July 11, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

The morning of Friday June 29th, Stacie and I walked into labor and delivery to get my “leaking” checked.

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About 8 hours later we headed to the operating room. Having my best friend with me was an amazing experience. We were only three days apart in our journeys so wanted to document the bellies one last time together before mine turned into a baby.

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The delivery team got me all set up and then Stacie joined us with multiple cameras and phones in her possession. Since my IPs were not able to be at the birth of their first child, we wanted to make sure it was well documented for them and she did an amazing job!

Here I am prepped for surgery and ready to have Alexander make his exit.

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The doctors got down to business and at 6:29pm on 6/29/12, Alexander takes his first breath.

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Alexander could breathe on his own

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but they did give him a little bubble assistance.

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Stacie joined Alexander to take pictures while I was taken to recovery.

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About an hour later, they wheeled me in to visit Alexander

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The entire time Stacie and I were texting and emailing pictures to the dads, who were stuck in Australia until the next day.

More to come . . . .

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Surprise!

July 2, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

What does one get their Intended Parents for their upcoming Baby Shower? How about a baby?

At the moment I don’t have the mental capacity to write out a long drawn out birth story so I’m going to cut to the chase . . .

Friday June 29th- 34 weeks pregnant

6:00 am- Kelly wakes up to a feeling of peeing herself, twice in about five minutes.

8:00 am- While walking around doing some laundry, Kelly has more “seepage” of fluid. Is it pee? She doesn’t think so. Is it amniotic fluid? Perhaps but it didn’t feel like a “gush” like it had in the past.

9:00 am- Calls into OB and waits to hear back.

10:00 am- Heads into the Birth Center to get checked out.

**SEVERAL HOURS of debate . . . which finally led to a C-section that night**

6:29 pm- Kelly’s surrogate baby Alexander is born

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What a Sweet Face!

June 25, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

Whenever I go in for the 3D/4D ultrasounds, I’m blown away with how much you can see. It’s like getting a sneak peak at the baby . . . you get to see exactly who you will be meeting in a few weeks, AMAZING! So, above is Little Man! The ultrasound tech said that he had TONS of hair and very large feet! I have already heard in the past that his long bone (leg) measured very long . . . so looks as if he’ll be tall. We shall see.

Now, we had an internet glitch, so the live streaming didn’t work out- BOO! But she did still get some great videos and images that I sent to the parents via cell phone immediately, so that was great. I am also sending out the video tomorrow so they can play it at their baby shower on the 7th of July. I am supposed to Skype in for it, so that should be fun.

It is amazing that we are coming towards the end . . . only a few weeks left. Crazy! Here’s a picture of me taking a break from packing my house up for the big move . . . showing off the 33-week belly.

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Oh How Quickly Things Can Change

June 11, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

I am 31 weeks along in this pregnancy. In my mind, I know that pretty much anytime after 36 weeks I could go into labor. I say 36 weeks because that is the earliest I have ever given birth. I also know that it could be as late as 39 weeks, when they will schedule my c-section . . . but as I move my business and move my house I’m trying to not over do it so I don’t push myself into an early labor. Sometimes you can do everything right and still things can happen.

I have a few surrogate friends that are due around the same time as I and three of them are currently in the hospital. One is about two weeks or so ahead of me. She is having issues with toxemia and has been in the hospital for the last few days. Her IPs, who are from another country, have arrived and looks like they may be delivering Monday or Tuesday.

Two other friends both had their water break pretty early . . 28-30 weeks. Both are on hospital bedrest and the staff is keeping an eye on their fluid levels and contractions. So far, so good . . . . I’m hoping they can make it for a few more weeks.

So good vibes headed their way . . . for healthy surrogates, healthy babies, and happy IPs.

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It’s 3:00 pm. Do You Know Where Your Surrogate Is?

June 4, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart


I need to start off by saying that my current IPs are doing a great job communicating with me. I get emails and texts from them weekly and Skype with them every now and then. I actually feel bad at times because I don’t always reply immediately because of how crazy my life is lately. I always try to send them belly pictures and always check in after my OB appointments.

A “HINT” to all Intended Parents . . .

Now I mention this because several surrogates I know are having some real issues with lack of communication with their IPs. I have been hearing stories of weeks going by with no contact initiation from the IPs. There are even some IPs that, even when their surrogate emails and texts them, barely respond. Not right! Especially when the IPs stated on their profile and within the match meeting that they wanted great communication with their surrogate.

I am upset about this for my surro-friends; actually I’m pissed. I have in the past had my own feelings of feeling ignored or forgotten at times in the process and it doesn’t feel good at all. So a hint for all IPs out there . . . it takes less than 30 seconds to text, “Hi. How are you doing?” or “Thinking about you” to your surrogate. You know the woman who is carrying your baby/babies . . . the woman who is making lots of sacrafices to bring your flesh and blood into the world.

She deserves a call/text/email back!

She deserves to hear from you without having to initiate a conversation.

She deserves to not feel like she is alone in this process.

If you want to have a happy surrogate and a good birthing experience (not having your surrogate mad at you or hurt because of your lack of concern), it would be a very good idea to let her know she is appreciated and what better way to tell her than to actually TELL HER?!

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Light at the End of the Tunnel

May 28, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

I am freaking out. Nothing really pregnancy related per se, but thinking about what I have to do in the next few weeks has my mind spinning . . .

As a reminder, my husband decided to inform me a week before Christmas, on the way to Disneyland with our kids, that he didn’t want to be married anymore. Since then, I have been healing, making plans, trying to keep things as “normal” as I can for my kids. June is a huge month. This week is my last week at my store. Because of the impending divorce I needed to piece off my business. Friday is my last day and then I have two days to get everything I did not sell moved home, cleaned up for the person moving in, and inventory the items I’m bringing home and what the new person is keeping. The following week is my kids’ last week of school. Then around the 20th I move out of my house and to a whole new city. Why the rush? Well, I needed to close the store, move, and get our new house set up and the kids and I settled before the c-section, which should be the end of July or early August. Since it’s surgery the recovery time is weeks longer than a vaginal, so it needed to be now. UGH! I’m tired just thinking of it all again as I write this.

All this means lots of thinking, planning, packing, and moving. Not fun to do . . . especially in your third trimester of pregnancy. I am trying to save money but at the same time I can’t carry my dresser down the stairs in my current condition, which means hiring movers. I know I need to just suck it up and get in the frame of mind that TONS of work is headed my way. Hell! I’ve been working my butt off already but I’m so tired and frustrated. I know there is light at the end of the tunnel but boy, it looks like a tiny flicker at the moment or a VERY LOOOOOONNNNNGGGGG tunnel. Wish me luck.

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Long Beach Pride 2012

May 21, 2012 by  
Filed under Family, Kelly Rummelhart, Surrogacy

By: Kelly Rummelhart


Had a great time at Gay Pride this year! My best friend Stacie and I were going to be too pregnant this summer to attend SF Pride as usual, so looked around and found out that Long Beach Pride had perfect timing. So Friday, Stacie and I flew from Sacramento to Long Beach and met three other surrogate friends there.

We had our shirts made, although Stacie forgot hers at home . . . I’ll blame pregnancy brain. Saturday we hung around the festival grounds, which was a blast. At first we were surprised they charged $20 to get in but it was well worth the money. San Francisco doesn’t charge for a similar experience, but we all agreed it was a lot better than SF Pride’s booths, etc.

Sunday we walked down to a friend’s house and watched the parade from her front yard. I really liked Long Beach’s parade as well. I wasn’t sure how it would compare to SF’s but it was great. Yes, it was smaller but it had a great community feel to it. Overall, I was really impressed with Long Beach Pride. I would definitely return another year there for sure. However, after seeing how FABULOUS Las Vegas Pride’s entry was decorated . . . men and drag queens in feathers and the car decked out with feather streamers and sparkly decorations, we may go there next year. We were thinking of Chicago before, but Vegas got our attention.

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Mother’s Day

May 14, 2012 by  
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By: Kelly Rummelhart

Here I am. My first Mother’s Day as a single mom. So far, so good. Yesterday the kids and I went with my surro-best friend and her family to Six Flags Discovery Kingdom and today we are hanging out at the house until we join another friend and her family for an impromptu swim party.

All of my children made me a sweet Mother’s Day Card and the two youngest brought home items they created for me at school. My oldest was concerned about getting me something, so I told her I’d buy myself something that I wanted and she could say it was from her. She loved the idea- and I love the new hat she got me. I loved all my cards and gifts from the kids, just like every year. But more so, I love the TIME I have with my children.

One of the things I have learned in my new reality of single mom who has to share custody is not to take my kids for granted. For years I have had control and have been able to be with my children everyday. Now, with my ex deciding to leave our family, I am limited to the time I have with them. It has really made me change my thought process: quality, not quantity. In the last five months I have tried to make sure the time the kids are with me is not wasted. Knowing that I won’t have them on Wednesdays and Thursdays and every other weekend has really made me change the way I spend time with them. It’s actually a positive that has come out of this whole ordeal.

I love my children with all my heart and being.  A mother has been the most challenging and rewarding job I’ve ever had- I wouldn’t trade it for the world. With all this being said, I guess I should stop blogging and go hang out with my kiddos! So Happy Mother’s Day to all.

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