By: Amy Wise
How the heck did you two meet? I mean, she went to school abroad and you, well, you’re a fool!
The other day we were at a birthday party and Jamie’s friend Byron asked the question, “How did you two meet? I mean she went to school abroad, and you, well, you’re a fool!” The two of us died laughing! So, this is how the two most opposite people on the planet met, got married, had a child, and lived happily, crazily after:
It was 1992 and I was driving up the 805 Freeway in San Diego. I was with my “Little Sister” from the Big Sis/Little Sis program. As we were driving, multiple “fancy” black sports cars (all with black men in them) were in the lane next to us. My Little Sis started to wave at one of the men in one of the cars. I told her to stop waving because they were too old for her (she was 15 at the time) and were either a bunch of athletes or a bunch of drug dealers, and you don’t want to mess with either! Yeah, I know, stereotyping at its best. Bad!!! However, I wasn’t wrong…it was athletes and friends. So there!
Anyway, my Little Sis said, “No, I know one of them, he used to coach my basketball team when I was little.” That “coach” so happened to be Jamie! I wasn’t sure if I believed her or if she was just flirting, so on we went up the freeway.
A few weeks went by and my Little Sis was out and about, and who did she run into?…Jamie! He asked her, “Who was that woman that you were in the car with the other day?” She told him it was her Big Sis, and then he proceeded to give her his phone number to give to me. So the next time she and I were together, she gave me the phone number and told me it was from the guy we saw on the freeway. Well, I promptly threw it in the trash and said, “I don’t call people I see on the freeway who are complete strangers!” She said, “But I know him!” I didn’t care; he was a stranger to me and you know what mom always says.
A couple more months went by and my Little Sis and I were driving around again and lo and behold but who was standing in a friend’s front yard talking?…Jamie again! Odds?! My Little Sis said, “That is the guy that gave you the phone number.” I said, “Oh my gosh, you have got to be kidding me! I better pull over and say hi or he is going to think I am a b—.” We pulled over; he came over to the car and said hi, and then promptly asked why I didn’t call him. I told him, “I don’t call people I see on the freeway. Let’s do this the right way. You call me. Here’s my number.” He then waited an entire WEEK to call! I guess he was getting me back for throwing away his number. Our first call was on a Sunday and we talked for FOUR hours! However, we still didn’t go out for another two months. We got to know each other over the phone –day, after day, after day.
Finally we had our first date, which was at his apartment where he made me dinner. I know it sounds bad –first date, his apartment. We had been talking for two months for goodness sake, it was like we were “old homies” by then! No worries…he was a complete gentleman!
You would think the rest was history, but noooooo, that would have been too easy. We dated from that day on, but there was a slight snag in our future. I had already made the decision before he and I met to move back to Oregon to be closer to my family. Soooo, we literally fell in love and it was time for me to leave. I debated whether or not to go, but Jamie told me to go because I would regret it if I didn’t. He said, “If we are meant to be it will work out. You want to be with your family, so that is where you need to be.” I left. We wrote and called constantly. Distance –not so fun. Four months later he moved up to Oregon! Then three months later we moved back to San Diego! Nuts huh? I am a Cali girl; I couldn’t take the weather. Love ya fam, but had to go “home.”
THEN the rest was history! We got engaged, got married in ’93, had Tatiana in ’94, and here we are today!! So when anyone asks the question…how did we meet? The answer is…on the 805 Freeway…fate took care of the rest!
Amy Wise is a Writer in San Diego.