By: Don Todd
Recently the subject at TNF was religion, but it really didn’t come into play for me until the other night. I know there are hateful people out there who use religion to harass and put people down. They don’t agree with people’s “choices” in life and always revert back to “god hates you, and you are going to hell.” Most of us would not be friends with someone who feels this way, or even be in a position to hear this, especially on a private Facebook page.
My page is very private to only the people I am friends with. So this didn’t come from some random person, but rather a family member, for lack of a better word. It was one simple word posted under my intro blog from last week: “SICK”.
At first I sent her a message, asking if she meant “sick” like a California surfer would say for good job. We say it a lot here so that’s how I took it. Then after a few minutes I realized what was being said and was in disbelief. I responded (like I shouldn’t have) to say that it was “very disrespectful” and “why would (she) post something like that?” The immediate response was that all the posts and blogs that I was doing were disgusting and I was shoving my lifestyle in everyone’s face.
I was beside myself! I started looking back through my posts to see if I was giving too much information. NOPE! Just a few pictures of my husband and me standing next to each other and a message or two from him saying that he loves me and is very proud of all that I am doing. Nothing vulgar. I couldn’t see what her problem was.
But I do know what her problem is: she has turned everything she has read around in order to have it match up with her own messed-up views of the world. It is her right to think this way, but it’s not her right to e-mail her nephew and tell him he is never going to see his grandparents again because he is going to hell and that they would have disowned me. That was the nerve to hit all nerves for me. I know that they may not have understood at first, but I know that they just want me to be happy, and that this is who I am.
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