TNF: How is your family like every other family and how is it different?
My family is small right now. It’s myself and my wife and we are trying to add to our clan. I believe our family is like every other family – straight or LGTB – who struggles with infertility. Our family is like every other family that has to face the obstacles of not fitting to the “norm” (if there is even a thing). Our family is like any other family who has to deal with mental illnesses and all of the stigma that comes with that. Our family is like every other family that struggles with money, and doesn’t have enough time in the day. Our family is like any other family that has ups and downs, laughs, cries, dreams, grieves and learns. Our family is inclusive. Our family is blessed.
Our family is not any different from others than one person is to another.
TNF: Did your family accept you and your lifestyle? If yes, explain and if not explain what you have done to help them to accept your decisions and your lifestyle.
I am lucky enough to say that my family accepts both my lifestyle and me and I am blessed with a supportive, loving network of people who I can trust. My parents are quite liberal, though it was not always that way. I think when I came out to them and they had to deal with a daughter who would marry another woman and potentially give them grandchildren, they worked through a lot to get themselves to a place where that was acceptable and, dare I say, encouraged. I think after the hell we went through as a family when I was very sick with a mental illness and addiction problem, having a gay daughter was a breeze!
TNF: How do you juggle the work at home with your jobs?
Right now the work at home does not include caring for a child, but it is still busy. My wife and I work full time long hours, commute to the suburbs everyday and don’t get enough sleep. We hope to move to an urban center, close to work and close to other alternative families, before our baby is born.
TNF: What lessons do you feel are the most important to teach children in this day and age? Are there any lessons they, or perhaps we as parents should unlearn?
I think we really need to push the idea of tolerance and acceptance. We live in a world where there is so much diversity that is often seen as a bad thing. I want my kids to grow up choosing their friends based on compatibility and not color. We need to teach generosity – or at least encourage it. We are responsible for all humans and if we can teach our children that it is not okay for children to die of hunger, gay teenagers to commit suicide, cultures to be seen as less important, then the next generation will hopefully do a better job than we’ve done.
TNF: Any words of wisdom to pass on to our readers?
No wisdom. Just be nice to each other.
TNF: Anything you want our readers to know about you or your family?
We feel really blessed to have found a community of people at TNF who give us hope in humanity. We look forward to introducing our child to this community.