By: John Jericiau
Dear Rupert Everett;
Your quote in a recent interview that showed its ugly words across my computer screen today was heartbreaking, hateful, and just downright false. It’s unbelievable that in 2012 someone with a brain would let something like this come out of his mouth, but it’s happening all around me. My family is fighting off a barrage of hateful words from many ignorant people across this country and this world. I just never thought that a fellow gay guy would join in and puke out vomit like this.
To be accurate, your quote should have stopped after the first three words, because you obviously can’t think! You definitely have some acting prowess. I enjoyed you in “Shakespeare in Love” and especially “My Best Friend’s Wedding.” But you are an actor after all, and the smart, tolerant, goofy, fun loving parts you play are definitely an act. Actually, I took the time to read your filmography and your list of movie titles for any clue as to where all this hatred is coming from, because I’m really baffled. Maybe the titles will provide me with some clue.
In 1982 you appeared in “A Shocking Accident.” Is it an accident? Can I chalk your words up to a misspoken mistake? You didn’t think it through in a last minute interview? You don’t really feel this way? You were quoted while you were constipated? I hope it’s something like that, because it truly is shocking.
In 1983 you starred in “Princess Daisy.” You’d think that someone who played a part in a production with this title would be more secure and sure of himself, but obviously not. You spoke in the article where you were quoted as saying that your mother never accepted your homosexuality. My response to that would be: “You got issues, girl.” Luckily many millions of gay men and I have had accepting mothers, and therefore we love ourselves, and therefore we feel we can love others, even our children!
In 1984 you had a part in “Another Country.” And maybe that’s where you should be, because I feel like the USA is slowly coming around to understanding that even when a guy loves another guy, they can commit to a relationship and a family. It sounds like you really have not had much luck in that department, and I feel bad about that, because everyone should feel the love that I’m feeling for and from my husband. You want another country? Try Iran, Mauritania, the Republic of Sudan, Saudi Arabia, and Yemen, where gay dads like myself would not only be called names by actors such as yourself, but would be put to death just because of who they love. It seems unimaginable that my boys would watch their fathers murdered because of whom they love.
1985 – “Dance with a Stranger.” I really thought I knew you. I thought I got your cool vibe when you played gay. It seemed like you were intelligent, but it turns out that you’re a strange one. I have taught my boys well to watch out for strangers and the dangers that lie behind a fake façade.
1986 – “Duet for One.” I’m afraid that you are destined to be alone in this world. No gay man in his right mind is going to be comfortable letting someone like you have his heart when you so easily condemn the hearts of others.
1997 – “My Best Friend’s Wedding.” How comforting and loving you were to Julia as she suffered through her love life. I actually thought how great it would be to have a friend like you. I am sadly mistaken.
1999 – “An Ideal Husband.” This is the biggest joke of all. There’s nothing ideal about you as a husband. So many gay men are forced in the closet simply because their choice of love is not acceptable. Sometimes we’re forced into the closet because the person we love is fearful. I know you have been quoted as saying that you wish you hadn’t come out because it ruined your acting career. Remember that it wasn’t the fact that you came out that ruined it, but it’s because you live in a world that cares way too much about who you love. Try focusing your hatred on those haters rather than those of us that are trying to find love and create love and a family.
In 2010 you played a part in the British TV series “Who Do You Think You Are?” Rupert, who do you think you are? I’d love for you to spend a few days in our home. I can’t imagine that your heart wouldn’t be bursting out of your chest as you listen to my husband read to our two little boys (and one more on the way in 8 or so weeks) as they wind down from their incredibly adventurous day. I can’t imagine that you wouldn’t be smiling from ear to ear as you listen in on dinner conversations and car rides and walks to school, where our sons will blurt out in the middle of a sentence “I love you, Daddy” for no reason at all, or hug Papa just because he is Papa.
We try so hard to shield them from the hurt and hatred in the world, like the news about the mother who microwaved her infant, or the father/mother pair who locked up their child in a closet for five years. Our boys should enjoy each and every happy day knowing that they are loved so much by their two gay dads, rather than be exposed to a laundry list of harm and hatred.
It’s a shame that you’re on this list.