TNF: How did you meet your wife?
Sara: Sam lived accross the street with her parents when I and my ex-husband purchased a house. We became good friends (platonic) and helped each other through many relationships including the breakup of my marriage (he cheated). Over 4 years of friendship we realized that we were growing jealous when the other was going on dates, but not jealous of each other, jealous of the date for getting to spend that time with the person we loved. One evening we kissed (7/25/03), and we’ve been together as a couple since.
TNF: Do you feel different from other families? If so, how so?
Sara: No, other than the inability to get married and have the security that provides to our property and children. Although in most cases hetero couples would never need to adopt their kids.
TNF: Is it tough being a gay couple where you live? Do you feel accepted?
Sara: Our city, Appleton, WI, is a very accepting and progressive city. We have a prominant private performing arts college, Lawrence University, and that draws in people from many walks of life. We live in a historic neighborhood close to the University that has a large concentration of gay families. We can easily walk hand in hand with our kids and dogs downtown and in the parks. The only time we felt discriminated against was by a fertility doctor when we were in the planning stage of getting pregnant with Graisyn. He was incredible rude and flipant with us.
TNF: What has having a family meant to you?
Sara: We enjoy the normalcy that family provides us. We are really no different than the hetro family next door. We go to work, we raise our kids to be respectful, caring, responsible humans, we maintain a home and vehicles, pay our bills and taxes on time, we have both gone back to school to better the future for our family. I guess we almost feel that we need to prove to others how normal we really are.
Thank you Sara and Samantha for sharing the story of your beautiful family.