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TNF: Tell me about your family. Are you married? Do you have kids? How many? How old?
ASHLIE: Yes I am married, my wife Tina and I were first married on May 19th, 2007. We just recently remarried this June 7th. We have 1 daughter her name is Emmah and she just turned 5 in June. She starts Kindergarten this fall.
TNF: How did you meet your wife/partner?
ASHLIE: We met back in 2000 online in an AOL chat room lol. We were living a town apart and she was just graduating high school. Hard to believe it’s been that long. we have been officially together since Oct 2000.
TNF: Do you feel different from other families? If so, how so?
ASHLIE: Different? Maybe sometimes, I guess it depends on different, I mean same-sex families like us do present the occasional question here or there. My daughter looks very much like me, but since Tina had her, we find that sometimes explaining where she came from can be quite interesting. I know that Emmah knows I am her father as well as her mommy, so sometimes depending on where we are and who we are around we sometimes have to remind her who can know our secret. As I am living as a lesbian women, the fact i am trans very rarely comes up anymore, especially with friends and family.
TNF: You mentioned that you transitioned while your wife was pregnant, tell me about that, and how did your wife react when you told her that you wanted to transition?
ASHLIE: Well leading up too it the year before which was 2008, I was dressing more and more for fun with her help usually to go clubbing on the weekends, so she at least knew about that. When I did wake up that morning in March 2009 and told her I’m a girl, Her first really funny reaction was um OK, now what? I had never been to therapy yet and I was going to work as a girl when I felt like it, but even back then i never had heard the word transgender or knew what transitioning was even. So we both had to learn a lot together, and I still believe to this day, it is one of the main reasons we are still together and more in love then ever.
TNF: Where do you live? Is it tough being a gay/transgender couple where you live? Do you feel accepted?
ASHLIE: We currently live in Syracuse, NY. We moved here from New Hampshire about a year ago. It is so much easier and accepting out here then it was back in NH. I think it is just a lot more public here. I have noticed many LGBT couples here and out and happy. My daughter has a boy i her class that has 2 dads, so that helps the 2 of them with something in common. Bering out here has given us a chance to start over and be ourselves. My wife has taken well to, I guess for lake of better words and “overnight Lesbian” or some of our friends call us social lesbians.
TNF: What has having a family meant to you?
ASHLIE: Having our daughter means the whole world to me. Having the chance to have a child is a blessing. We talked a lot before and after the wedding that we wanted a kid. For me especially, finding myself slow enough to have the chance to make a child, as now that is no longer an option, and we are very happy with our 1 little girl 🙂
Thank you for sharing your lovely family with us and Happy New Year!