TNF: How did you start your family?
BETHANY: We chose an anonymous sperm donor from a sperm bank called NY Cryos and we did 3 at-home inseminations which were unsuccessful. We then went to a local fertility specialist and did two IUI’s before my wife became pregnant with our first child, our son Jaxson. We are currently trying for our second child via the same donor, and this time I’ll be carrying.
TNF: Did you always want to have kids?
BETHANY: I have always wanted kids, and I’ve always wanted to be pregnant. My wife also wanted kids, but never actually wanted to be pregnant. When we decided we were ready to start trying to get pregnant, my wife decided she wanted to go for it. Although she had a tough pregnancy, she is so glad that she got to have the experience of being pregnant.
TNF: Where do you live?
BETHANY: We are both Florida natives and currently live in Palm Bay, FL.
TNF: What is the greatest (and the toughest) thing about being a parent?
BETHANY: The greatest thing about being a parent is the love. We never knew our hearts could hold so much love until our son was born and we looked into his eyes. He truly has been the single greatest blessing in our lives to date! The toughest thing about being a parent is patience. Your timetable is completely turned upside down once you have a child. Everything goes from being about you, to being about them and their needs and wants. It takes 30 minutes to get out of the house on a good day. And you have to have the patience to allow them their independence, too, and we all know little feet move much slower than ours.
TNF: Does your family feel adversity?
BETHANY: We are fortunate enough to live in a state that now recognizes marriage equality, so the discrimination on that front is no longer an issue. However, living in the South does mean ideas are not as progressive and some underlying prejudice does still exist. Thankfully, we have been lucky enough to not have to deal with outright adversity against us as a family and everyone we have met and had to explain our family to has been supportive and willing to ask questions to better educate themselves.
TNF: Do you have any advice for LGBTQ youth?
BETHANY: Love yourself, you are wonderful and perfect just as you are! Jenn was fortunate enough to encounter little discrimination growing up in South Florida and she was able to be who she was from an early age. On the contrary, I grew up in a very religious family and was always told that being LGBTQ was a sin that would land you in hell. As a result, I didn’t come out until I was 21 years old, despite feeling attracted to women since I was very young. I wish someone had been around when I was growing up to tell me that I was perfect just as I was.
TNF: What’s one life lesson you want to teach your children?
BETHANY: We hope to teach our children to love and accept everyone. We are all human and we all deserve to be respected, despite differences such as culture and religion. I hope that our children never encounter adversity as they grow up, but I also hope that we equip them to be able to deal with it with grace should they ever encounter it.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us!