By Alex Temblador
Even with the recent legalization of gay marriage in the United States, gay weddings are nothing new. Marriage ceremonies have been held in states and other countries across the world for many years. However, with the legalization of same-sex marriage, there is, of course, a rise in same-sex weddings and with that, we are noticing an evolution of the wedding toward something that is altogether beautiful and new.
For the most part, same-sex weddings are just like any other wedding that you may attend.
Having said that, there are many aspects of same-sex weddings that oftentimes vary from the traditional model. Same-sex couples are breaking the traditions of weddings to fit their relationship, making for a equally beautiful ceremony but one that tends to be more evolved, gender-neutral, and equal in different aspects.
- Planning the Wedding
Like many aspects of same-sex couple relationships, planning the wedding is most often split quite evenly between the fiancees. Usually, the wedding planning duties are divvyed up according to who would complete that aspect of the planning best, and is not determined by gender as straight weddings tend to be. For instance, one person in the relationship might be better at determining and maintaining the budget of the wedding, while the other, a creative, artistic, and Pinterest-obsessed soul, takes care of the decorations.
- Walking Down the Aisle
According to About Style, most same-sex male grooms walk down the aisle holding hands, while a third of lesbian brides walk alone down two separate aisles. Still, this differs between each and every wedding! Sometimes one groom or bride walks before the other down the aisle. Many times they are accompanied by their parents. Then there’s these two love birds who created their own type of walking-down-the-aisle tradition. Check it out!
- Seeing Each Other Before the Ceremony
Many LGBT couples are choosing to see each other before the wedding ceremony and ignoring the old superstitions of “it’s bad luck!” Oftentimes, these meetings before the ceremony are for pre-ceremony wedding pictures that come out beautifully.
- Wedding Parties
Wedding parties at same-sex weddings don’t often follow the gender rules of traditional weddings. Rather, wedding parties are usually mixed with people of different genders. On the other hand, some same-sex couples don’t have wedding parties and choose to be alone at the front during the ceremony.
- Dresses and Tuxes
With LGBT weddings, there isn’t a strict sense of traditional wear. Some brides wear tuxes, while others wear dresses, and they aren’t always white. Sometimes they’re colorful, black, or cream. For grooms getting married, they may both wear black tuxes or choose to differentiate their outfits based on tux, tie, or vest colors. Similarly, the wedding party outfits don’t always match and aren’t always the same color or style. Though LGBT weddings aren’t following the “conventions of fashion” found at traditional weddings, it’s clear that each bride and groom is wearing what makes them most comfortable, feel the most attractive, and, all in all, they rock it.
- Family versus Couple Paying For the Wedding
The Advocate and The Knot released results from a wedding survey they did in 2013. The survey found that most same-sex couples, 86% in fact, reported funding their own wedding rather than having their parents foot the bill. Compare 86% to 40% of straight couples who fund their own weddings and its clear that LGBT couples break the mold when it comes to the whole “father of the bride pays for the wedding” tradition.
- Taking the Other’s Last Name
The aforementioned survey also found that 62% gay and lesbian couples tended to keep their own last names, however, it’s also not unheard of to have one partner take the other’s last name.
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