Two Moms Discuss Having Kids in Your 30s

As Brandy says in The Next Family’s newest YouTube video, your doctor may tell you that you’re old if you start planning to have kids in your 30s — but the reality is — you’re not.

Brandy and Susan of The Next Family explain in their newest YouTube video, why it’s great to start having kids in your 30s.

The Next Family receives comments from different people — some that are couples researching having children and others that are still young and falling in love. It’s those people that Brandy is speaking to when she says, “We believe that you shouldn’t rush into starting a family.”

Why? As Susan explains, it’s important for couples to “make memories together,” first. Get to know each other, travel, and build a strong relationship and base before having kids. As Brandy adds, “Parenting challenges you in different ways,” and when you meet your significant other, you’re not thinking, “They’ll make a good parent.” The moms suggest taking time for yourselves first, perhaps even getting a pet together, before moving forward on creating a family.

The moms also provide other reasons as to why it’s a good idea to wait until you are in your 30s to have kids:

• In you’re 20s, you’re still gaining the confidence you need for parenting.
• Build a career and good financial base in your 20s first.
• Have fun and learn about yourself and what you like in your 20s before having kids.

And as Susan and Brandy can attest, for LGBTQ+ parents, having children can be expensive whether it be through IVF, IUI, adoption, or surrogacy and more often than not, you’re more financially secure (or have at least planned for it) in your 30s to be able to afford to create a family.

Check out the video below for more insight on having kids in your 30s.