A few weeks ago I was picking my kids up from school and was approached by Jayden’s teacher. She told me that Jayden had misbehaving in her class and when I asked her what he did, she said that he was using the wrong glue. Confuse,d I asked what she meant. She said that the class was doing a project that required glue and instead of using the glue sticks that she had provided Jayden, he was using the glue stick that I had purchased him when I went school shopping.
I was still confused as to what she meant by Jayden misbehaving. I told her that I would talk to Jayden about it. When I got the kids into the car and buckled up, I asked Jayden what had happened at school. He said that he was doing his work and was using his glue when the teacher stopped him from doing his work to tell him that he was using the wrong glue.
A few days later, Jayden’s teacher asked if we could have a meeting with the counselor, teacher, vice principal, and me and my husband. In the meeting I tried to explain to them how Jayden is and how to get him to listen. The counselor suggested that I sit in on the class a few days to see if this stopped Jayden from getting out of his seat.
The first day that I went into this class, I was appalled by what the other children in the class were doing. I witnessed at lest ten different students be continuously disruptive. They were getting out of their seats and walking around the classroom. They were poking other students with pencils. They were laying on the floor. They were standing with the door open and talking to other students outside. They kicked chairs into each other and the other students that were attempting to listen. In the whole time that I was there, which was half a day, the teacher was only able to get two things done. The rest of the time was spent trying to make these children behave. I saw some things that instantly made me angry.
These kids thought that they were going to tell me things that Jayden was doing in the class and that he was going to be in trouble with me, but that is not the way I parent. Jayden was very nervous as they were telling me these things and I told them that if people would leave Jayden alone, then he wouldn’t cry as much. I witnessed children push Jayden while he was standing in the lunch line. I was on my way to head home when I saw this and I ran over to him. I told them to stop pushing and to stand right. There were no adults supervising these kids. I stayed an additional 20 minutes to just make sure that Jayden was safe and got his food.
I went back the next day and this time I stayed for the whole day. I saw the same things as the previous day. This time I decided that if the teachers were not going to protect these students that are getting bullied, I was going to. I went to recess and lunch with Jayden and he had a great day. I had many students come up to me and ask for help with another student that were just being mean. I decided that if I had to come to school everyday with Jayden then that was what I was going to do so that my child got the education that he deserves.
I mentioned to the Vice Principal what was going on in this classroom on a daily basis. She assured me that she would look into it. The next day was a Friday and I planned on going to school with Jayden again. This time I decided to drop him off and then go back home to take a shower and eat some breakfast. After I was ready, I left for the school. When I walked into the office to sign in as a volunteer, I saw that Jayden was sitting in the office. I asked him what he was doing in there and he said that he was not behaving. Then the principal came out of his office and said that he was just about to call me. He then asked me to come into his office and talk. He told me that the teacher had called him to come get Jayden because he was walking around the classroom. I thought back to all the times that I was sitting in that class watching the other kids be unbelievably disruptive and thinking that the teacher should call the principal and she never did. I thought that it was a little funny that my child is painted as this evil child who does not listen and disrupts the class all the time. He then made a suggestion for us to put Jayden back in independent study. I looked at him and knew that there was no reason to fight this. They did not want Jayden at this school. He is too different for them so they forced him out.
I have had the weekend to mull over what happened over. They had Jayden dis-enrolled from their school and enrolled in the independent study school within an hour. If I had not gone into Jayden’s classroom to witness what was going on, I would have thought that this was all Jayden and moving him to independent study was something normal. I do not think that this is all Jayden’s fault. It is pretty hard to concentrate when everyone in the class is constantly trying to hit you or get you in trouble. My husband and I adjusted our finances so that I can be a stay-at-home mom and home school Jayden. I am keeping my other children in school because they are doing well but I will be keeping an eye on them and I will be making periodical visits to the campus to check on them.
Going into the home school area is something that we are familiar with. We did it last year when the bullying because too much and I pulled the boys out of school. I am going to try to start a play group for children like Jayden so that he no longer feels like he is the only one like this. I want him to feel safe and secure and if that means teaching him at home, then that is what is going to happen and this goes for my other two children also.
This is a new beginning for Jayden. He will be able to wear girls clothes without the fear of judgement. He will be able to wear whatever he wants at home with me. I haven’t decided if I am going to take this issue to the school board or not. This school does not want Jayden at their school. They said that he can come back and have his weekly meetings with his teacher and his counseling there but that is it. I am not a parent to sit idly by and watch as my children are being bullied whether it be by teacher or student or school.