By Alex Temblador
For many families across the world, infertility is a huge struggle, and no one has more first-hand experience with it than the moms of The Next Family.
In their newest video, Brandy Black and Susan Howard discuss how they started working toward creating their family. Though Brandy was always intent on having children, Susan was a little hesitant. The moms finally moved forward with their journey to parenthood when Susan gave Brandy a baby book for their one-year anniversary (which Susan doesn’t remember doing!).
“That was like the best gift — I broke down and cried… That was the most thoughtful, loving, sweet– It was this simple gift that meant the world,” said Brandy.
The moms journey began with IUI. “We didn’t have a lot of friends trying to have kids so we were really figuring it out on our own,” said Brandy. The two moms chose a donor and were ready for their first IUI procedure — when the worst thing happened.
Brandy said, “It came time to do the insemination, and the vial was –”
“Empty,” said both moms. “Nothing was in it,” said Susan.
The experience was very traumatic, so the moms moved to a new doctor and a new cryobank. Their struggle didn’t end there with the sperm donor fiasco. Despite spending countless amounts of money, time, and emotion trying IUI, the two moms suffered from unexplained infertility for three years!
“It was so hard. So so hard, every single month to find out that we weren’t pregnant. And every single month to be tracking ovulation going through the whole process, and just get no, after no, after no, after no. And in the meantime, all these other people are getting pregnant, and it’s just devastating,” said Brandy.
The moms were close to running out of money when they began to use IVF. They eventually had to start using credit cards to pay for the procedures. Brandy and Susan still had no luck with IVF and almost called it quits and start looking at adoption avenues when their doctor offered them a huge opportunity and pleaded with them to try one more time.
Check out the video below and hear their amazing fertility struggle story: