By Brandy Black
Being two moms we often get a lot of questions about the role my wife and I each play in our relationship. “Who is the mom and who is the dad?” is a question we used to hear a lot, less so now but nevertheless people want to understand the dynamics between two women. The best way I can explain our roles as co-parents and spouses is a tag team approach of getting all the crazy day-to-day things done in order to keep our family of five in order. Susan probably falls under the butch category and I the femme but the more I think about these labels the more I don’t want to be defined by them. Over the last decade I have watched relationship roles evolve in straight relationships while the moms take a full time job and dads stay home and take care of the kids. People are defining themselves based on their skillset, their present needs for their family and by who they want to be, not by gender. Times are changing so the nature of the question, in my opinion is dated. We are who we are. But we did attempt to answer this question in a typical Susan and Brandy round about way in this video below from our YouTube channel.